Dear Annie, Readers Share Ideas for Handling Dinner Guest Licking Clean Plate

Dear Annie, Readers Share Ideas for Handling Dinner Guest Licking Clean Plate

Dear Annie, My husband and I enjoy your column and we often read it aloud and discuss possible responses before reading your response.

Regarding “Grossed Out in Georgia,” about the brother-in-law who licked his fingers or his plate to “get the last drop of dinner,” we would answer that the writer just waits until it starts to happen and then immediately comments: Oh George! Let me bring you some more! I am so happy that you like my kitchen! “Then she could jump up and reach out to her plate, ready to serve him some more. Maybe he really likes that she cooks and doesn’t eat that well when he’s alone! She might even do something extra for him to take it away. home when you leave. Or maybe just mentioning it will tell you what you are doing. – Be proactive

Dear Proactive: Thank you for your kind words and wonderful suggestion. I love seeing brother-in-law’s table manners through a positive lens.

Dear Annie, This is a suggestion for “Disgusted in Georgia,” who can’t stand her brother-in-law’s habit of wiping the last bit of food off his plate with his finger (or tongue).

My father was raised “country” and it was considered good etiquette to return “clean” dishes. Guests were always given a slice of bread (butter optional) to accomplish this. They used it to soak up sauce, shove the peas onto their forks, and fluff up every last crumb on the plate. This ensured that there was no waste, that diners were full enough, and that dishes were easier to wash without scraping and rinsing.

Advise “Grossed Out” to tactfully offer his brother-in-law a slice of bread. If he doesn’t know what it’s for (but I bet he does!), She might say, “It’s sweet that you love my kitchen so much you don’t want to waste a drop, but I bet it would be easier with this one!” It might even prove it. – Butter up

Dear Butter Side Up: Many of you suggested that I use bread.

Dear Annie, I have been a grief therapist for 37 years and find that there are some “experts” who often need to change their language when offering advice to grieving people.

His comments in response to a gentleman’s confusion over whether to replace his wife after their lifelong love story were moving and beautifully told. But refrain from using the buzzword “new normal.”

Once someone loses the love of their life, their life never becomes “normal”, new or old. Rebuilding a life filled with love and lessons from the experiences of loss helps us understand and navigate life without that partner who was always our “other half.”

I highly recommend the writings of Megan Devine, a brilliant educator and writer on grief and loss.

Thank you very much for your comments on often extremely difficult life circumstances. – Grief therapist

Dear Grief Therapist: Thank you for your letter. We greatly appreciate your advice based on a lifetime of experience.

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